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The Passin of Mistakes: Silver Linings

Raise your hand if you’ve NEVER made a mistake…
Uh huh, that’s what I thought. I can’t see a single hand.

I would ask, “How many of you are afraid of making a mistake?” but I’m afraid that question would be a mistake because according to the world of empirical guessing, four out of five people are afraid to admit they make mistakes because they think admitting to making a mistake is a mistake.

Odd

It’s odd that people are afraid of making mistakes. No one has EVER, EVER, ever, EVER, gone through life without making a mistake. NOONE. EVER. Making mistakes comes with being human, like sneezing. We don’t sneeze and exclaim to ourselves, “You NIN-CoM-PooP!” We sneeze and other people say, “God bless you.”

I am Mistake Prone

God bless me, I make mistakes daily if not hourly. They range from typing in the wrong password to leaving my purse in the red Target cart in their parking lot. I drop, spill, stumble, slip and break things regularly. I leave cupboard doors open and lose tops to bottles. Last week I introduced myself to the same person twice within 5 minutes. I forget to take the tags off my clothing and wear them out in public. Twenty-dollar bills regularly fall out of my pocket. It’s a mistake to put them there.

The great Cosmic Joke
I was born to two perfectionist parents who expected mistake-prone me to be perfect. I was not able to meet this impossible standard, which was painful in a myriad of ways. I believe they were not happy in expecting the same from themselves, God bless them.

But because of both nature and nurture, I became a perfectionist who rejected myself for not being perfect and I became sick doing that. Really sick. When you reject yourself, your body follows suit and begins to reject itself. Luckily meditation (that’s “meditation” - I keep reading medication when I reread this) and creativity reversed most of that. I learned that trying to be a perfectionist is the mistake.

Perfectionism takes the joy out of jobs, creativity, relationships, and life. It’s a lot more fun making mistakes and not worrying about being perfect.

It was a mistake for my parents to expect me not to make mistakes – but they didn’t know I had ADHD so there is that. The silver lining is I became creative and invented a career that has made me happier than I ever imagined possible because of their mistake. Thanks parents! I believe rough childhoods can result in coping skills that build humor, resourcefulness, and resilience. Humor because mistakes really can be something to laugh at, especially when you learn to laugh at yourself.

Their mistake was the grit in my oyster shell that created a pearl. I think that metaphor might have been a mistake, so ignore that. No pearls, but I am passionate about this perfection hang-up and I see how it leads to unhappiness, so I found some intuitive and unconventional ways to help people liberate themselves from their inner oppressive perfectionist. That’s one of my favorite parts of my job. Seeing the relief on people’s face when I tell them it’s okay to be human, lowering the pressure, and forging on through and because of the mistakes.

Henry Link said:
While one person hesitates because he feels inferior,
the other is busy making mistakes and becoming superior.

Sarah

I was listening to talk by a woman named Sarah. She said her dad used to have a routine at the dinner table where she and her brother were asked to share their mistakes. When she shared something like, “I tried out for a team and did horribly,” her dad would give her a high five. He would actually be disappointed if she didn’t have something to share. Failure for her became not trying rather than a failed outcome

She stated: “Many people don’t take risks for fear of failure. They don’t start the business, they don’t create the art they want to create, they don’t go try out to be in the play, or whatever it is for fear of failure and once you redefine that failure as when you’re not trying then life opens in many ways.”

By the way Sara is Sara Blakely founder and CEO of Spanx, one of US’s most successful apparel industries. They sell leggings for $98. She was one of those people busy making mistakes and becoming superior She uses her philosophy in the boardroom; she and her team regularly share what she called Ooops and find the silver lining. It makes for an openly creative environment.

Acceptance

Another silver lining I noticed is people prefer to be around people who are okay with not being perfect.

I once sent out a newsletter that was supposed to be titled Passion Makes Discipline easy. When I went to check my email, because I’m a subscriber too, I saw a newsletter from me, titled,

“Passin Makes Discipline Easy.”

Not only did this typo go out to my 5000 + newsletter list, it also automatically posted to Facebook, Pinterest and at the time, Twitter.

So mustering up my reserve of mistake resilience I’ve collected over years of typos and various and sundry other public mistakes, I sent out another short newsletter called “Mistake Intervention” to all anyone who saw it.

It said this:

Typos: They bug me too

Please place this "o" in the subject line of the last email
where it says "Passin" instead of Passion.[shrieking]

All embarrassed and such,
Jill

I received a bunch of fun emails,
if you were one of them, thank you.
Here are some of them:

Linda: I loved the typo!XXOO

Ellie: I was excited to find out who Passin was.

Dale: Mistake Intervention?

Sounds like a won-n-n-derrful program! Sign. Me. Up.

How much does it cost? I don’t even care about the free one month trial while operators are standing by.

Jennifer: No worries, I’m just passin’ by

Kit: I love the typ. It made me curious about the article. Who is the French guy? Or is he Russian And how can he help. –

Lynda: I thought passin was a new herb.

Joanne: Thanks...your correction made me laugh.

I think they were saying, “God bless you.” We humans like to know we aren’t alone. We all sneeze and we all make mistakes. And some good humor came out of this one, thanks to my readers.

There a freedom in the acceptance of not being perfect. It gives us courage to move forward, explore freely with curiosity, and not be afraid that it doesn’t work out because the consequence is compassion instead of self-alienation. Who doesn’t need compassion! Let the mistakes bigen.

With love and permission,

Jlli

 

Make some mistakes with me in Taos New Mexico- 2 Spaces left

One of the Modern Day Muses Gives Permission to be Imperfect:
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Interview with a Muse by another Muse

I confess, sometimes I Google myself.   I'm not proud of it, but it's comforting to see I've made a ripple or two out there. But enough about me. I ran into an interview one of the graduates from my Kaizen-Muse Creativity Coaching Certification training and I think it might have a nugget or two of something you might be able to use so I'm sharing it here.

By the way.. get to know the Modern Day Muses and take get  own creativity deeper in 10 new ways in a twelve week program starting in January, 2025. You can do it for yourself or learn to facilitate groups. More here.

 

 

 

Interview with Kaizen-Muse Creativity Coaching founder Jill Badonsky

from Katja hunter in Denmark

What made you create Kaizen-Muse Creativity Coaching?

I was reading books on projective drawing and brought that into my psychotherapy and was fascinated by how we project our personality, our needs, and our conflict into our art. Then I got to see how creativity heals kids and adolescents. When they’re not able to express themselves verbally, they’re able to express themselves through art. And how art gave them a sense of control and a place that they could go to when everything else was falling apart.

I burned out in the corporate world and so I taught “The Artists Way” for a while. Then I did workshops and people started asking me if I would coach them. That’s when I had an “out-of-body” experience and thought “This is what I want to be.”

I decided to write my first book about the Muses and ran into my own block. I looked for help from a Life Coach, which only made my creative block worse because of the linear approach of this particular coach. This made me wonder how many other people are getting blocked by conventional coaching.

I wrote my first book about the Muses, which is part of the Kaizen-Muse creativity coaching curriculum. The muses are just voices in our heads that help us be creative. We have voices that don’t help us be creative. “I’m not good enough, I’m too old” and other voices. The muses plug into those by saying to pay attention to what you’re doing right, have fun with it, and be courageous.

The Muses speak to THOSE voices and the more you’re able to bring them into your life, the more creative you’ll be. We all have these blockages, fears, and expectations, and as soon as we figure out how to get out of those, we’re able to apply our creativity to our lives, our art, our writing, our relationships, and our wellness. We’ll live our lives creatively.

How do you avoid getting overwhelmed by all you do?

If I’m not careful I do get overwhelmed and I think it’s normal in the creative process, but I figured out little antidotes for all of these things.

I think one of the reasons we get overwhelmed, and it’s kind of an epidemic these days because there is so much we can do, is that we expect too much. When we think we have to do this and do that, we’re in this irrational place, thinking we can do it. We can do a lot but we can’t do it all at once.

Like we can’t take fie  breaths at the same time. This goes back to the kaizen part of kaizen-muse, which gets ridiculously small.

This is something else I’ve learned, we figure out these tools and we quickly forget because our habits sneak back in. I have to constantly go “How can I break this down?”. This fools the brain that thinks we have to do it all.

I also have to make lists of what I’ve already done. This is important for people who are overwhelmed. I look at what I’ve already done on my project so far. This creates a foundation to push off from which is easier than having to push off from “what do I still need to do?".

Do you have a specific creative block that pops up again and again?

I have them all! I’m also a raving perfectionist (I shared that I’m a raving perfectionist in recovery), the feeling of not being good enough, comparison, fear, and control, and I really have to remind myself to lower my expectations. I’m expecting too much of myself.

The distraction thing is really big. This is also my latest area of research. People are so addicted to social media and Netflix and all these escape mechanisms and they are eroding the creative process because they are interrupting all the time that we need for daydreaming and for allowing our concentration to go deep. When we keep checking Facebook when we’re writing, we interrupt the cognition that’s responsible for our creativity.

So, creating a habit and creating a structure so people hold a space for each other in order to stay focused. Those are big ones for me.
(Structure: Free! Parallel Universe every Monday at 8:30 am pacific time)
Join me by clicking here then.

How do you stay motivated?

That’s an interesting question because I don’t feel I need motivation. It’s a compulsion to create. I’m at the age where I could relax a little bit more but I can’t even imagine what that would look like. I love doing this. I think it’s important for people to focus on what they love instead of what motivates them.

What do you love about how the words come together on the page, or the way the colors blend? When you focus on what you love about it, it draws you to it. Which is better than trying to motivate yourself to try and do it.

Daydreaming about the process draws me to it. It feels like this is what I’m supposed to do, there’s nothing I’d rather do. A lot of people do something because they think they should do it.

“I got to see how creativity heals kids and adolescence, and how art gave them a sense of control and place they could go to when everything else was falling apart.”

— Jill Badonsky

 

A word from Rumi and Thomas Merton
Art and animation by Jill Badonsky

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Welcome to My Pillow Fort

Welcome to my Pillow Fort.   Despite the fact that it's a metaphor, there are actual pillows in my immediate vicinity so it does basis in reality. Plus. it 's comfy and safe in both literary and real dimensions.

 

You're invited in.  Everyone gets a pair of socks* . 

 

Art and writing give us metaphors that we can climb into and, if you're like me, you're wanting to climb into something that is far away from the news. My upcoming newsletters will be containing  comfort and inspiration, because I need it too, stay tuned.

 

 

Today my husband and I purposely walked down a metaphor. It was a alley. and our mission was to find something beautiful on this through-way that was deemed less visual appealing than the manicured side facing the street.

A metaphor.

 

There were bush clock vines, bougainvilleas, a beautiful peppertree , and simply the art installation an alley can be when you decide to see it as as an art .  It really was beautiful when we looked at it that way.

 

Finding the beauty in unexpected places is a mission right now... it's a quest of not crumbling from reality.

 

I'm lucky to be in a vortex of magnanimous souls so I see the quotes, wisdom and needed humor of authors, artists, and people who 

speak out with precisely the truth I 

need to hear right now.  

 

I weed through some of the ones that seem superficial, cliche', or trite, but I'm glad to read the majority. They give me another perspective and seeing things differently is a trait of the artist and writer that I badly need to be right now, as well as having an open mind. 

 

Here are a few sprigs of thought that have been helpful to me (some don't have sources):

Paraphrased from my friend Chess Edwards:

We thought politics would save us from the darkness, but it didn't. Now we have the job of turning to the consciousness of love. 

 

"Dogs aren't just pets, some days they're the only things that makes sense."

 

"Normalize telling your friends you love them. Tell them a lot."

 

"You must stay drunk on writing so reality cannot destroy you."

~Ray Bradbury

 

"We make art so we don't die of reality." ~Nietzsche paraphrased.

 

 Creativity is remembering who we you are. We are still the same people we were before the election. We still know what love is. There are still beautiful peppertrees in the alley.   

 

*(Actually...everyone who comes to my Taos retreat in February DOES get a pair of comfy socks, a writing journal, and some art supplies.)

 

Read How to Administer Facelifts .. on Substack

 

Join me in staving off despair by participating in art as a solution for reality.  Scroll down for my offerings.  I don't know about you, but I need community and creativity right now. 

 

 I recommend the Kaizen-Muse Creativity Coaching Training. 
As you go through it, you take your creativity to new levels, using the tools you're learning to break through resistance, procrastination, and all the other usual suspects that stand in our way. I've been teaching now for twenty years, last year it won best creativity coaching training, and as I teach it, I find that creativity keeps unfolding the best in life... and in myself.  Take it for yourself or to be a creativity coach.

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Creativity Classes, Trainings, Retreats

 

Art as a Solution to Reality on Zoom through the La Jolla Athenaeum
Thursdays, 2–3:30 PM PST/ 5pm eastern
January 9–30

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Stay Drunk on Writing
Wednesdays 2-3:30

January 8- 29

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Creativity Immersion

January 17-week KMCC training
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The Muse in Winter Taos Retreat February 8-12, 2025
Creativity at the Mabel Dodge Luhan House in Taos.

Four Days of creativity immersion, nurturing, far away from the maddening crowd. Find out why people keep coming back, all levels from intimidated beginners to pros.

 

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The Underground  newly named, "Pillow Fort": On going monthly workshops, weekly prompts, and a supportive community of nurturing people. Anti-overwhelm, pro-inspired, chill.
One of the best ways to make creativity more of a priority. More here.

 

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Dispatching Muses, Wishing Ease and Joy,
Jill Badonsky
"Happiness is available .. help yourself to it."
~ Thich Nhach Hahn
 
www.themuseisn.com

Art as a Solution to the Current Anxiety: Pull Up a Chair

 

“… hope is 1,000 times as thunderous as a movement that marches with dread."
~James Carville
 
I am vacillating from anxiety to hope, dread to relief, excessive consumption of pizza to juice fasting – rinse, repeat, and scream. What a crazy time.
 
What I consider a disturbing and preposterousness possibility is flirting with upcoming election results and boggles the minds of millions as to how this could be a remote reality with the information we know.   Some days it seems like it won’t happen, other days… we hear it’s imminent.
 
Emotional whiplash prevention is in order.

Eight perfectly imperfect ways to cope with the current anxiety using creative thinking, art, and  writing

 

1.     Let  Go
I’m letting go of speculation-obsession, (easier said that done because wondering what’s going to happen is laced with fear – real and imaginary -and fear has a way of removing cucumbers from my cool-as-them intentions.)

When the speculation-fear pops up, I say,  “Thanks for sharing but I have some living I’d like to do, a poem to write, a doodle to midwife, a laugh to emit.” I’ll find out who wins on election day. Hoping justice is finally kicking in and looking for it every day in the often toxic and ego-driven web of social media won’t make it happen and can eat away at my time, if I let it.   
 
2.    Trust
No matter what happens,   I’ll handle it. The perseverance required in the chaos of art and writing teaches resilience, enjoying the moment, and letting go of attachment to way things need to look in order to be happy.  I’ll flourish no matter the results because my power comes from within not without. I’m not perfect about that either, and that’s okay. When it works, it gives me a lovely break from dread.
 
3.    Physical Outlet
I put on Brent Lewis and move to the rhythm of his drums letting the heartbeat of anxiety morph to the ancient healing of a drum beat…Sometimes I pound on bongos for the subsequent catharsis. Any enjoyable physical outlet helps. Brent Lewis - Dinner at the Sugarbush
 
4.    Gratitude
Redirecting the mind to that which I am blessed has instant anxiety reducing powers. I’m grateful for about two million things… I just got back from teaching during a phenomenal Art Walk on the Italian Riviera - that’s a wonderful memory to return to. with a slice of pizza.
 
5.    Beauty
Fear has a greater pull than tranquility. It has more sponsors.   Fear is how humans are wired to survive so it kicks in easier than being chill.  I’m giving more airtime to nature, peace, and beauty even if it’s in five minute spans of time.  Beauty is medicine.
 
6.    Connection
When introversion doesn’t keep me happily solitary in my hovel of cats and books, I reach out to friends for connection, fun, and deliciousness with the understanding that we not talk about the thing. We are pack animals, connection is healing.
 
7.   Make art or witness it.
 Research shows we are less anxious, depressed and more fulfilled when we are immersed either in making art or receiving it.  Not like I needed an excuse, but this boosts me aiming my direction toward writing and painting or going to a museum or concert.  
 
8.   Halloween Wild Abandon Creativity Workshop: Tuesday October 29 12 pm pacific/ 3 eastern
If you want to experience how #7 works, come find revery by making art and receiving a guided relaxation writing in my Halloween Creativity Zoom workshop, join The Underground Highway for a supportive community . Especially for intimidated beginners and those who know the power of creativity to provide a timeless, fearless experience away from the craziness of the world.
 
Halloween Workshop $25 Free to Paid Substack Subscribers (let me know in the comments you’d like to attend) and to Underground Members.
 

 

Dispatching Muses for love and protection,

Jill Badonsky
 

www.themuseisn.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

Tuesday, October 29 12pm pacific/ 3pm eastern

Wild Abandon Halloween Creativity on Zoom

Come escape the craziness with one of the best things you can do...having fun makiing stuff.

More Here About that.

 

 

February 8-12, 2024

Creativity Retreat in Taos, New Mexico

The Muse in Winter retreat and the Kaizen-Muse Creativity Coaching Certification Training is filling up. Five spaces left. Don't miss an immersive experience of creativity, community, and darn good food at the Mabel Dodge Luhan House. My 14th year. More information - Taos 

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 New KMCC Training begins in January.

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Art as a Solution to Reality

 

 

Hi There,

I had the honor of speaking at Vision: A Center for Spiritual Living this past Sunday, about Art as a Solution for Reality.
My talk starts at the 34:47 minute mark and goes until 1:05:40

The lives of Bill Murray, Frida Kahlo, Mary Oliver are included as people who actually were saved by the arts.

I share a poignant poem called Shout Out from Sekou Sundiata, who was an African-Amerian from Harlem who moved from heroine addiction to theater, poetry, and music. From anger and hostility to grace and inspiration.

And I share a bit about how art saved me too.  It continues to do so. I hope you find a sanctuary in your creative process. 

(The last song during my talk, Can't Hold Us, is cut off because of copyright reasons. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VG3JsmOmDqw 

Enjoy.
Jill

There are spaces open for the February Taos Retreat

Join me in immersing yourself in art, writing, and smart phone photography in a different way. Be nurtured by the healthy gourmet food and a stressfree environment for introverts, intimidated beginners as well as pros.

My own challenges to the creative process inspired a system using mindfulness, psychology, and reckless play to make it easier to enjoy not only what I do creatively, but how I do it. It’s more about fun and capturing the moment than precision, perfectionism and the final product. It is NOT about competition and comparison.   

 

The Lazy Person's Guide to the Autumn Equinox

"Every leaf speaks bliss to me,
fluttering from the autumn tree."

~Emily Bronte

 

Greetings Creative One,

 

It equinoxed into Autumn today here in the Northern Hemisphere.
 
I figured there ought to be some sort of celebration other than drinking pumpkin spice lattes we can do without getting out of our chairs, so I just pulled two out of my horn-of-plenty.

The Enlightened Lazy Person’s Autumn Equinox
Two-Part Celebration:

Part One

Equinox descends from “aequus”, the Latin word for "equal" or "even," and nox, the Latin word for "night"—a fitting history for a word that describes days of the year when the daytime and nighttime are equal in length.
 
I taught yoga in various settings for 30 years and one of my favorite breathing (or pranayama) exercises that can “even” out our brain and elicit more creativity, is the alternate nostril breath. I’ve modified it for the equinox and just did it so I feel great. Feel free to do it as you read this.
 

1. Hold your right nostril shut with your right thumb, breathe in your left nostril for the count of six, hold both nostrils shut for the count of six - using your right index finger on your left nostril, release your thumb and breathe out for the count of six.
2. Repeat on the other side- holding the left nostril shut, breathing in for six, hold for six, out on the right for six.
3. Keep going five more times,( six all together!) and the last time, breathe in as much as your lungs can take, hold for six, release both nostrils, and let a beautiful, slow exhale out, feeling it’s release all along the way.
4. You will feel relaxed, balanced, creative, generous, magnanimous, inspired, mischievous, smarter, taller, and thinner. Or maybe just more relaxed - I keep mixing it up with caffeine.
    

Part Two
Gratitude - Whenever possible, take advantage of reasons to ponder your good fortune. Gratitude is scientifically proven to reduce depression · lessen anxiety and crankiness · support heart health · relieve stress · and improve sleep, relationships, and perspective .

1. Since it’s now Autumn, it’s a good time to take a minute to write down two projects you’ve “sown” throughout the year.
2. Don’t panic if you don’t think you have any… you do.
   
   1. You’re a project. You’re a work of art. How have you progressed this year? If you’ve endured the current crazy climate in the news and the ways of reality in general, you’ve cultivated resilience. Phew!
   2. If you’ve done one nice thing for another person, you’ve cultivated kindness.
   3. Or, maybe you wrote a book, painted a picture, had a huge event, took a great photo, told a joke well, smiled at a stranger, or made a delicious meal. Those count! Feel some gratitude toward yourself and the opportunities.
   4. I’m grateful you read this far so you can count that. Thanks!
   5. Shuck some corn on the cob, smear it with butter and chomp away, grateful for your teeth, for fresh corn, and for life. (candy corn doesn’t count, ew)

Crunching dead leaves,
Jill

 

 

Art As a Solution for Reality: The Power of Creativity 

(I make art so I don't die of reality)

 

I've been loving teaching art and mentoring for the last few years, but have been yearning to get back to giving talks with performance poetry and various and sundry forms of inspiration.

 

I will be back on stage 10 am pacific, October 6 giving this talk (and optional workshop) and would love the support of friends and newsletter subscribers there in person or if you're not in town, you can be there for me as it's streaming live here.

 

I'll be speaking from the book I've been working on for the last .... 92 years. Singer Songwriter Mark Montijo will be sharing his original music during the workshop.

 

If you're in or around San Diego, come join this lovely group of people this day. I hope you can make it

4780 Mission Gorge Place, Suite H San Diego, CA 92120

It will be streaming live here.

 

Invitation to Creative Courage

 

"Creativity takes courage." ~Henri Matisse

 

You won't see me skiing or sky-diving, or ... even skating. I've never wanted to do those things, (the one time I skied, I cried all the way down the bunny slope).

 

Physical acts of adrenaline are not how I roll because rolling down hills is not how I ... roll.

 

I prefer the adrenaline of getting up in front of audiences large and small, to peddle creative freedom, perform poetry, or share stories of my broken past, glued together with humor, irreverence, and redeeming perspective .

 

I share the art I make.  My poet friend, david brydges calls my art, "wickedly whimsical poetry painted with passionate imprecision."  I relish that description. If I had to be perfect or make my art look like that of  any other artist, I wouldn't do it at all.   That painting of my breakfast at the top was done mostly with my eyes closed - it's not for everyone. But I love the free and reckless nature of it so it's for me...

 

These things require courage and are accomplished with the help of the sixth Modern Day Muse, Audacity, the Muse of Courage. She urges us to ask this question for awhile, "How would it feel to be more courageous?"  and then take small steps. 

 

Pause for a moment and think of all the creative things you don't do because it scares you. Think of all the reward, exhilaration, connection that might happen if you did them. Fear is a natural part of creativity, so persisting with your passion despite nervousness or terror, builds courage and courage is freedom; freedom to share, push limits, wade out of the comfort zone and swim into a sea of cresting possibility. 

 

Art as a Solution for Reality: Sunday, October 6 at 10 am pacific/1 Eastern 
I will be speaking and giving an inperson workshop in San Diego, doing my preferred version of adrenaline - standing in front of people sharing poetry, story, creativity, and inspirational humor in a talk called,    4780 Mission Gorge Place, Suite H San Diego, CA 92120 and streaming on Youtube. Watch here or on my website for details.

 

A Public Service Announcement about sharing your work:

Two minutes and 33 seconds

 

 

 

 

Share your work with me, or join a safe supportive space, and share it there.

 

 

Dispatching Muses,

Jill Badonsky
and Audacity, The Muse of Courage and Uninhibited Expression

www.themuseisn.com

 

 

 

 

 

Creative Thought Card Workshop

Sept 11, 2024 11 am pacific/ 2pm eastern

If you purchased Creative Thought Cards from me, this is the date for the workshop that is included.We will talk about applications of the cards and dip into some low pressured, activities that make creativity easy- you can partake in or view surreptitiously off- screen.  Recording sent to all who register.

 

TwoCreative Thought Cards on today's Audacity Theme.

 

 

 

 

San Diego

October 6 Vision Church and Streaming on Youtube

Talk and Workshop: Art As A Solution for Reality - 10a  pacific/1p eastern

Optional Art as a Solution for workshop to follow: 
 and hear a song from singer/songwriter Mark Montijo.
4780 Mission Gorge Place, Suite H San Diego, CA 92120

 

Creativity Retreat in Taos, New Mexico

The Muse in Winter retreat and the Kaizen-Muse Creativity Coaching Certification Training is filling up. Five spaces left. Don't miss an immersive experience of creativity, community, and darn good food at the Mabel Dodge Luhan House. My 14th year. More information - Taos 

 

What if You're Not Your Own Audience? -Repurposed Storytelling

In the gaggle of Modern Day Muses (and a Bodyguard), there is a Muse that hails imperfection. Here’s one of the reasons why.

I had a cellular shift around my art several years ago when I painted prolifically with my partner. We ventured out to the everywhere of landscapes, coffee shops, and unsuspecting people to sketch then paint in watercolor and outline in ink. We brought home copious amounts of half-done works, a lot of mistakes, and maybe an accidental masterpiece.

I liked very few of the paintings we did. He liked them all.

I would put my painting-mishaps in a portfolio sometimes using the other side for another painting or ripping them up to make collages. My partner would frame all of his paintings with glass and black electrical tape! and hang them in cafes and hair salons around town. I his style, but I was in awe of his courage.  He had this unspoken acceptance that all of his paintings were worth framing.

Audacity* was an inspiring trait of this man, having boundaries was not. One day I walked into a café and saw a unfinished painting of mine that I despised, and it was framed and hanging. There was my blunder on display for everyone to see. I had given no permission for him to do this. I was horrified, angry, and I’m pretty sure overly dramatic.

When I went to retrieve my painting, it had sold. Huh? Someone bought and hung what I considered my bad art in their living room, and it wasn’t even finished. I met the buyer I sheepishly asked her what she liked about it.  She said, “Well, everything ... especially the unfinished look.” Really?

That’s when a cellular happened.. the epiphany was greater than the sum of the painting. How is it that I couldn’t see the beauty someone else could see in my work? Was I doing good work and not even knowing it? Am I not even my own audience?  I was sad, excited, confused, and inspired to paint more. I had no idea that my standards for what was considered “good” might be suspect until I realized my standards weren’t for me, they were for someone else. 

 

T.S. Eliot said, "Between the idea and the reality ... falls the shadow." How we think our art and writing should look and what actually happens is often out of our control. But that doesn’t mean it won’t be something as good or better than we planned. If we are attached to the vision of what it MUST look like, we are robbing ourselves of the pleasure that can come from going with the flow and looking for what the work itself wants to become, and then accepting it as the wonder it is.

When I started looking through the eyes of the people who appreciate it, the deep-rooted illusion that my art sucked began to dissolve. I realized that when I stopped trying to paint the way I thought you’re supposed to, I saw a quirky, purposefully imperfect, whimsical voice and gave realized I did like my art the way it is, it was messy and imperfect, like me.      

Share your half-finished works with the world. Frame them with boldness and defiance. If you make enough mistakes, it becomes your style.

This week I will share with you some wisdom from Spills, the Muse of Practice, Process and Imperfection.  

*Audacity is an upcoming Modern Day Muse

Dispatching Muses,

Jill Badonsky

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Reminder to Begin Again

 

Beginning again is the path of a resilient creative practice  ... not to mention life in general.
It’s the step by which we can surmount every disappointment, embarrassment, and indignity..

We are free to live this next moment as though it were new, because it is.
However we failed or didn’t succeed or lost the plot, we can begin again in the next moment, or the next day rather than
be dragged down into ruminations born of our negativity.

Or we can just take a break and reboot and trust we will begin again refreshed, reinvigorated,  or re-inspired once the idea has incubated.
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If you have not been as disciplined as you like,
If you’ve been spinning your wheels , stuck in creative chaos
or distracted when you wanted to be focused.
If are resistant to starting at all… lower the pressure
And begin again.

You've heard this before from me.
It's something I constantly need to remind myself,
so I thought it might be good timing for you too.

Dispatching Muses,

Jill Badonsky
and Muse Song, The Muse of Encouragement

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